Divorce...?

Can you imagine if Divorce was still condemed (sp)? The option would be there ofcourse but couples would most definatly reconsider what marriage is all about and clearly define for eachother what it is to be married. I'm sure many young guys would rethink their decision after hearing how the girl doesn't want their relationship to, "slip away" and the only way to avoid that is to abide by the following:

Don't forget to say I love you
Always kiss me when we make love
Don't stop opening doors
Remember that I love flowers
Must have morning sex...(MUST)
Even if I'm not, tell me I'm BEAUTIFUL (absolutely NONE of that 'pretty' or 'cute' stuff cause that is for commonplace women and I'm definately a CATCH)

and in return she would do the following:

Never burn dinner
Not forget to pick up the kids
Oral sex once every 2 months

Your rolling your eyes now but I have a handful of girls in my head that would laugh and agree with that list from hell. The point is in discovering critical signs of weakness that endanger a relationship. The more communication the better and with that comes a firm sense of who you are marrying.

Talking to my grandmother I was shocked to find that her marriage of 40 (ball park guess) years draws lonely tears from her eyes. Trouble coming from their marriage consists of his dissatisfaction for life; daily struggles and pains that cannot be looked over and lacking the IDEA (the mere idea!!) to grasp onto what is left and find some joy with that. How can a woman make that decision to leave after so long? I'm sure the small fact that it crosses her mind daily is the most heartbreaking evidence of her disreputable reality. THIS IS IT. This is how it is no matter if Tuesday and Wednesday were two consecutive days where life between them was harmonious...what about Wednesday? Who wants to waste the rest of their life wondering what days he will be "good" which determines their personal happiness OVERALL.

I couldn't help but still think about it even after we switched the awful subject. The whole concept of marriage for life is amazing to me and I spoke with my mother's mom on her marriage with someone in the Navy. They have been married over 50 years and their relationship is astounding.

"There is a turning point between a man and a woman where life isn't based on sexual intimacy and the bonds created through new love and lust, " she explained to me, "the companionship and loyalty to eachother is important and the concepts spoken to eachother through vows on the wedding day become clear..." She pauses almost looking back through the roladex of memories and speaks agian quickly as though she had found what she was looking for, "Life is centered around friendship, support, and the remembrance of an active relationship through time"